BASKING IN LONELINESS -IFEDAYO OLUSEYE(EYESOFLAGOS)

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The lonely
man searches desperately for who to converse with and more importantly understands
him but couldn’t find anyone. He yearns for an understanding partner but all to
no avail.
Loneliness
is commonly used to describe a negative emotional state experienced when there
is a difference between the relationships one wishes to have and those one
perceives one has.
The
unpleasant feelings of loneliness are subjective; researchers have found
loneliness is not about the amount of time one spends with other people or
alone. It is related more to quality of relationships, rather than quantity. A
lonely person feels that he or she is not understood by others, and may not
think they hold meaningful relationships.This may sometimes makes him feel insecure
as he may be perceived as a weird person in society.
One
common consequence is that the lonely person feels emptiness is his soul, that
feeling that he might be living in vain. He asks himself questions like; what
exactly is my purpose? Am I a product of a screw-up? What can I do with my life?
And, Why was I born?! The last question happens to be the most dangerous of all
as it could lead to positive or negative actions, and one prominent negative is
depression which commonly leads to SUICIDE!
Despite
the negative effects of loneliness, it can hardly be considered abnormal. It is
a most normal feeling. Everyone feels lonely sometimes—after a break-up with a
friend or lover, when we move to a new place, when we are excluded from some
social gathering.
Chronic
loneliness is something else entirely. It is one of the surest markers in
existence for maladjustment. When a lonely person decides to bask in his own loneliness,
such person may be hard to build any sort of connection and relationship with.
He takes solace in himself alone and becomes dangerously unpredictable.
From
his low end he makes decisions which may be negative or positive but one sure thing
is for sure you may not be ready for this person as he does the unexpected.
He is not
invincible! He ain’t made out of steel either, he is just human, but a completely
different human as his loneliness has taken a toll from his soul.
                             

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